Why come for counselling?
People come for counselling for many reasons – they could be simply hurting, feeling frustrated or overwhelmed. Perhaps an important relationship has broken down and they feel a need to make sense of things and want to believe in a better, more fulfilling future. My experience has shown that a lot of issues have at their heart a relationship breakdown – in the broadest sense. In turn this relationship breakdown may be the catalyst of a host of other issues that have now suddenly turned themselves on their head and we have nowhere to turn. Friends and family may help but may also serve to increase the problem, thus causing a chain of events that hurt us further.
A Reparative Relationship?
Counselling is a brilliant way to feel really heard, for some people possibly the first time in their lives, feel validated as a human-being which, in turn – (counselling is often viewed as a “reparative relationship”) helps us to make any changes we wish to ultimately feel “better”.
I begin with you, the client – the person who is wants to make things better, who may struggle to be understood and heard. Together we can help you find your true voice and understand why you are where you are now. Together we can find a way to make future or existing relationships work better for you. Through self-awareness and greater understanding of your life and presenting past with relationships and friendships, you will feel more empowered.
The need for counselling
The need for counselling may increase exponentially as people become more aware of the real benefits of talking therapies. Many research articles support the fact that not only does counselling work, but how it works and why it is such a wonderful tool in modern day living.
I understand that it takes time to make changes. It is my hope that with increasing self-awareness, experience and current relationship research, I personally live life as authentically as possible within prevailing circumstances. I can quote articles and research, quizzes that determine your relationship style, your preferred love language and personality traits, all of which help pinpoint why you are as you are, and help you move forwards with new understanding – these will be freely available to you throughout our counselling relationship.
What is your goal for counselling?
Your goal for counselling will be obviously be unique to you. Sometimes people have a goal which is specific and sometimes it is less than specific. Sometimes the end result is different from what you had first hoped because that’s just what happens in therapy. We become more comfortable in ourselves through greater awareness.
Taking the initial step to seek counselling can be hard. You might feel you need support for something that might have been causing problems for some time. It is important to find someone whose profile stands out specifically to you and your issue so that you know instinctively that this person can help you.
Sometimes you may want to find a counsellor who is not local so that you can keep distance between your private life and your issues. The big question is clearly “can this counsellor help ME with MY problem”.
The counselling I offer is integrative – meaning I draw on a range of approaches. You are the client and at the centre of my work. Through a range of talking, creative and maybe writing therapies my goal is for you to leave feeling happier, calm and more in control of your life.