Here are a few quizzes for you to try:
Below is a quiz purely for you to see where you are in your relationship. Make a note of the results and if you can see where changes can be made, do them!
Q.1) I thank my partner for ordinary things (dinner, putting fuel in car, repairs, laundry, etc)
A Never B 2-3 times per year C Monthly D Weekly or more
Q.2) I express appreciation for my partner’s efforts, even when I would do the task differently.
A Never B Rarely and only if it is done right C Regularly D Almost always
Q.3) I tell my spouse/partner positive qualities and behaviours I notice in him or her — whether they appear in our relationship, in relationships with others, or in his or her work.
A Never B 2-3 times a year C At least monthly D Almost weekly
Q.4) I compliment my spouse or partner on his or her appearance (can be way he or she is dressed, physical features or some aspect of his or her sexuality)
A Never B 2-3 times a year C Monthly D Almost weekly
Q.5) I express appreciation to my spouse/partner for specific ways he or she contributes to my life, to our relationship, and/or to our family.
A Never B 2-3 times per year C Monthly D Weekly
Q.6) I express my gratitude or appreciation for my spouse/partner through physical affection (hugs, little kisses, squeezes, caresses, holding hands, other forms of non-sexual touching.)
A Never B 2-3 times a year C Monthly D Weekly
Q.7) I try to communicate treasuring and appreciation of my spouse/partner through tender, treasuring, sensual or sexual connection.
A Never B Rarely, although we do have sex C Monthly D Weekly
Q.8) I try to both tell and show my spouse partner how much I love him or her in a variety of ways.
A Never B 2-3 times a year C Monthly D Weekly or more
Q.9) I appreciate or compliment my partner/spouse when we are with other people,( and tell him or her when I’ve told someone something great about him/her when not present)
A Never B 2-3 times a year C Monthly D Almost weekly
Q.10) I comment about or joke about my spouse/partner’s mistakes, shortcomings or flaws when we are with other people.
A Never B Maybe once a year C Fairly often D Regularly